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5 Reasons my House is a Mess when You Come Over

Many people have asked me how I keep my house clean with 5 young children, the short answer… I don’t. Every day is a battleground with me: the vacuum, the dish pile, and the laundry pile. Every day I go through my lists and tidy up the random chaos of my home. And yet every single day, usually around 7pm, I am faced with the reality that I would be horrified if someone showed up for an evening tea. I cannot help but feel a sinking feeling when there is an unexpected knock at the door. Here are the top 5 reasons I have a messy house when you come over.

5 reasons I have a messy house when you come over

1. I have a messy house because my kids never stop eating.

My kids NEVER stop eating, therefore they constantly need food, therefore I am constantly in the kitchen preparing food. How can I clean when my life revolves around preparing snacks and meals and then cleaning it up? “This is the song that never ends…” 5 little plates, 5 little forks, 5 little mouths that need water, 5 little voices asking for second helpings.

[tweetthis remove_hidden_hashtags=”true”]I have a messy house because I never leave the kitchen #thestruggleisreal #rebeccaspoonerpg[/tweetthis]

2. I have a messy house because I have young children.

ANY mother of young children understands (or should understand) that life with littles is hard! I spend my days running after tornado toddler and princess preschooler, who seem to get in the worst kinds of trouble when they are together! If you come over and see a mess, before you pass judgement, count the little eyes peering at you through the window… and have grace! Little kids need you ALL. THE. TIME.

[tweetthis remove_hidden_hashtags=”true”]I have a messy house because I have little kids! #thestruggleisreal #hatersgonnahate #truth[/tweetthis]

3. I have a messy house because I live in a virtual hamster wheel.

I don’t sit down. I run from one crisis to the next (and trust me, there is ALWAYS a crisis). I stop arguments and snuggle my clingy toddler. I put bandaids on owies and sing songs. I make meals and teach school. I run around and around and around this house and I am lucky to go to the bathroom alone let alone vacuum the front entrance! The level of mess in my house is a pretty good indicator of just how chaotic my day has been.

[tweetthis remove_hidden_hashtags=”true”]My house is a mess because I am lucky to go to the bathroom let alone vacuum the front entrance![/tweetthis]

4. I have a messy house because I am so so tired.

By the time I can finally sit down and rest my weary bones (I may be only 28, but I swear the kids have slowly sucked the life out of my marrow), I am downright exhausted. I COULD sit and clean the house from top to bottom before dropping mercifully into my bed. OR I could sit and blog for you lovely people, or have a tea and a hot bath, or visit with my husband, or work on my new traveler’s notebook (stay tuned for more info on my emerging planner addiction). 9 times out of 10, I choose to “let it go” once the kids are in bed. I clock out! I have come to the low reality of “what’s the point?” Because really, it will ALL have to be done and redone again tomorrow!

[tweetthis remove_hidden_hashtags=”true”]I have a messy house because come 7pm I am ready for some much needed ME time![/tweetthis]

5. I have a messy house because I have more important things to do.

Here it is, the final word on why I have a messy house when you come knocking… I have more important things to do. Those fingerprints on my window mean that we can hardly wait to go outside and explore! The sand all over my front entrance means we spent the day at the ocean, adventuring together. The toys all over the floor in my basement mean that we played today! The dishes all over my kitchen counter mean that we ate together as a family. The disaster in my school room means that (booya) we did school! If I sat down and prioritized my life, feeding my kids, doing school with my kids, and playing with my kids, not to mention my full time job ALL take priority over cleaning my house! And because of the young age of my children, those things don’t leave me much time for anything else.

[tweetthis remove_hidden_hashtags=”true”]My house is messy because I am snuggling my toddler instead #hatersgonnahate[/tweetthis]

So what if I have a messy house…

So yes, I have a messy house most of the time. If you are a mom with 5 or 6 kids and you can manage to maintain order and organization while still having time for yourself, or working, or spending time with your husband… then you need to guest post on this blog and tell us how you do it! But I suspect that you struggle along with me, that you wish your guests had come knocking yesterday when you’d had time to clean instead of today when you’re living in sweats and a ponytail. Life with littles is hard my friends! I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes:

The cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow
But children grow up as I’ve learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down cobwebs; Dust go to sleep!
I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep. -By Ruth Hulburt Hamilton

[tweetthis remove_twitter_handles=”true” remove_hidden_hashtags=”true”]So quiet down cobwebs; Dust go to sleep! I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep-By Ruth Hamilton @Hhomeschooling[/tweetthis]


  1. I love how real this post is! It’s true – it is just hard to keep life clean, even with one little. But five! I can’t imagine! And of course you’re tired – I don’t blame you! I love that quote as well. What’s more important – a squeaky clean house, or a house full of love and family? I pick family 🙂

  2. I love this! So true. We are just always on the move. I feel like when I get one room sparkling clean, I turn around and another room has turned into a disaster while I was cleaning. I figure if I can get one room really clean each day, I am doing good. 🙂

  3. Yes!! I would add one…..I might have just cleaned(you missed it); in our house with 13, it only takes 5 minutes for the room to look like it hasn’t been cleaned in months! Especially during seasonal clothes switch-out!

  4. I always feel like I have to keep my house clean. With four kids it’s impossible, right? I actually love going to a friends house that is messy. It makes me feel normal. I also admire people who can enjoy their kids without feeling the need to have things clean first, they have their priorities straight. Sometimes I have to work on that area in my life. I loved your post!

  5. I’m with you on all of these, especially the first one. I have 8 children and they never. stop. eating. They are bottomless pits. Then I take them out somewhere and they act like they haven’t eaten in weeks. I want to make them all wear T-shirts that say, “My mom really did feed me before we left home.”

  6. #1 and #4 are huge for me. By the time I get other things done, sometimes I am just too tired to deal with cleaning up. I am a clean freak and do love having a clean house. But since becoming a mom, I’ve learned to just not care as much. Even more so since getting pregnant again. Rest and sleep is just more important to me right now than mopping. #Titus2Tuesday

  7. So. Much. Yes. With a 19 month old who refuses to sleep through the night and (as of recent) take and decent nap, a baby in my belly that won’t let momma get comfy when his brother is finally asleep, and a pup that decides he needs to go out the second the other two are cooperating, I’m just exhausted. Too exhausted to clean!

  8. Yep! Even with non- littles at home the house is often a mess; we’re too busy learning, exploring, creating, and making memories to clean ALL The time… and we would have to clean all the time because yes, someone is always eating, someone is always adding to the dirty laundry pile, someone is always getting into something.

    • We won’t remember cleaning up and having a pristine house, we’ll remember the adventures, building forts in the living room, doing that insane science experiment 😉

  9. Awesome post, Rebecca! 🙂 I relate to it all! (By the way, you have amazing FB reach) Ha! The funny things you notice as a blogger. Love your comment above. Yes, I want my kids to remember the fun, not the perfectly kept house. 🙂

  10. Yes! I’m trying to break my habit of constantly apologizing for my house. I only have two kids but I farm for half of our food and cannot keep up with everything.

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