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Confessions of an Introverted Homeschool Mom

Being an introvert has never been so prevalent in the forefront of my mind until recently. With the spotlight of the online world drawing attention to the social tendencies of our nature, I have been forced to consider where I fit. I have always rebelled from labels, especially when I feel like we aren’t so simple that we can be defined by a single term. How could I be an introvert when I was also goofy and outgoing and full of energy? I have come to realize that there is nothing simple about the word introvert and there is a huge variance in what that can look like for people.

Confessions of an Introvert

Confessions of an Introvert

Me, I’m an outgoing introvert who can go to that place only if I am withdrawing into myself often enough OR if I push myself and make it happen. It is fun and rewarding but exhausting and something I avoid. I hate small talk, I find social gatherings awkward and uncomfortable because I can’t seem to skim the surface along with the rest of the crowd when I’m over in the corner hating the social niceties. I work far better in one-on-one settings where I can just get real with people and then that fun outgoing part of me just naturally comes out. To the rest of the world, I put up walls, I withdraw, and I can come across as a total snob even though that is the last thing I want.

In today’s episode I share a few real-life stories of what being an introverted homeschool mom looks like in settings like church or swimming lessons. I share how this comes into play when I am also an online public presence and how I am trying to find the balance between the outgoing me and the introvert me. But in the end, I want to hear from YOU! Are you an introvert or do you know one? How does this impact your homeschool, your home, your friendships? How do you find the balance between stretching yourself and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone while also respecting who you are and giving yourself time to recharge? I would LOVE to hear your response and story in the comments below!

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  1. This is me! I haven’t been to church or any homeschool meetups for my kids in a while, even tho my family has. I feel stuck. It’s just been too long since I’ve been to church so I feel like I can’t go there. I can’t stand the small talk and since I’ve been missing so long, there will be even more small talk. Yikes! At homeschool meetups I do the same as you. I can’t usually tell if people don’t want to talk to me because I’m putting them off or they just don’t want to make friends either. I think they read my body language pretty well because they never approach me to talk. It’s working I guess. I actually don’t want them to make friends with me because I know it’ll just be at the meetup and more small talk. Ick. I’m sure people think I’m such a snob. I don’t have low self esteem, I’m not shy, I just don’t want to chat with people. I could care less what people think of me but in today’s society I feel weird being like this. I’m better when I go on a field trip with my gf and her kids, even if it’s with a hs group, that’s fine, as long as we don’t know anybody else. That works! Don’t have to chat with anyone except my gf and we can be separate, kinda. I hope I’m not doing damage to my kids by being like this but what is a person to do?

  2. I just listened to this podcast. I am very much an introvert and about everyone who meets me cannot believe that I am. I love hosting friends at my house for play dates, girls night, game nights, bbqs etc. I love people. I just find them super draining. I always explain it the same, I love people but they don’t energize me. They drain me. I need to be alone in order to feel energized. I have a group of really great friends who are homeschooling mamas and we are constantly on a group text. There’s 8 of us all together and one other friend is an introvert. I think the biggest things that have helped me thrive is saying no. No to co-op, no to meeting at the park when I normally rest, no to a Sunday night couple thing. I am not afraid to miss out on all of the activities. But when I go, I’m there. Fully engaged and having fun. I also think being a homeschooling mama has a lot to do with it. I have 3 kids and 1 on the way and my house is constantly loud and people are talking at me all the time. So I need to give myself time alone daily, I need to create healthy boundaries for my kids and my friends. I also try not to sign up for all the things, I just hate going and dread it. And then when my kids get sick I’m so happy we can skip it. I also realize that while I am this person, seasons change. So right now I’m in a narcoleptic pregnant stage with small kids. They need sooooo much from me. So maybe I’ll get to be more social in the future. I also don’t need to feel bad for saying no when it’s good for my husband and kids and my soul. High five fellow introvert homeschooling mama!!

  3. I feel as if these are my words. This is 100% JUST LIKE ME. I used my much younger sister as my “security blanket” when I was a teen. I got married young, and my husband and kids have been my security blankets since. I also fail miserably at small talk, but crave deep, real conversations.

  4. I so appreciate your authenticity! I got everything you were saying! Your not being fake but yet your putting on a facade so to speak I totally get it. I’ve only heard 2 of your podcasts but sincerely loved both of them! Don’t stress yourself out with a time limit on getting episodes out. Because In truth I get stressed when there are so many released and I get behind on listening! I like the occasional flow! Love hearing your thoughts because I feel like it’s a conversation between my sister and I!

  5. Thank you so much for doing this episode of the podcast! I am an introvert and homeschool mom as well. It feels good to hear you articulate many of the same things I struggle with. Sometimes it’s easy to feel completely alone in the “weirdness” that I feel walking into social situations. As well as the fear of being a disappointment by not being able to live up to people’s expectations. Thank you so much for being honest and open!

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