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When a Hospital's Prejudice against Homebirth Nearly Killed me!

Childbirth is a horrifying beautiful mess of a thing, isn’t it? It is painful and scary and humiliating and yet… we do it again and again. Nearly all of my childbirth experiences are ones I treasure in a special place in my heart. But there is one that still to this day shakes me to the core. One that changed our perspective and rocked our happy little world. One where a hospital’s prejudices and negative attitude towards homebirth nearly cost me my life.

When a Hospital's Prejudice about Homebirth Nearly Cost me my Life!

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Join me as I rewind three years. I had three beautiful children and was pregnant with my fourth. The baby was healthy and strong and there were no complications. After three deliveries at the hospital I was hopeful we would get to try a homebirth with our midwife. Because we live 45 minutes away from town I was prepared that we may need to go in if anything went wrong so our bags were packed and sitting the car. I had had “prelabor” for a month. I was tired and had had useless uncomfortable braxton hicks contractions for over a month, 10 minutes apart. I was late.

With three prior pregnancies I had been early. We were sure this one would follow suit and supremely disappointed that she seemed to be taking her time. We jumped on the trampoline, we went for walks for hours on end, we tried to turn these contractions into labor with EVERY trick we could find (I’ll let your imaginations finish the rest of the list). About five days after her due date, I was as big as a house and woke up at about 2am with contractions. Funny how you question so many times “is this it???” and yet once it starts, you KNOW. I knew. I got up, I cleaned the house for the midwife, I let my hubby sleep for a few hours and then woke him up.

And Then we Had a Homebirth

I called the midwife around 5am, but this wasn’t my first rodeo, I knew if I was still cheerful and upbeat and talking, it was going to be a while so I told her I would call her when we were further along. I decided to hop into the bath and everything changed. Wowsa, active labor here you come! I told my hubby around 6am to call the midwife that this was active labor, I could hardly speak but in his head I had cried wolf so many times, he thought he’d have a shower first and see where we were at (men). Our midwife lived an hour away so once he called her we were still left waiting. My mom came and picked up the kids (poor little tykes were a bit worried with all my moaning and groaning) and I managed to get out of the tub and make it to my bed just as she arrived.

I was ready to push (perfect timing hey?) so homebirth it would be! It was horrible, it was awful, it was the most painful labor I had ever had. You know how some people say “it just feels good to push”? It flipping felt AWFUL! But, feel it I did. I felt her head come, I knew it was there, I had no doctors or nurses telling me what to do or what position to be in or what was happening, when to push or how. My midwife followed MY lead and I did what worked for me. It was the most incredible, empowering, fulfilling event of my life. I cry just thinking about it! And voila! I had a beautiful baby girl! In my bed! I got my homebirth after all and it was everything I dreamed of and more!

My homebirth was the most incredible, empowering, fulfilling event of my life. Read how a hospital's prejudice nearly killed me!

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And then my Placenta Wouldn’t Detach

If you have given birth before you will know that the placenta usually comes out within about 10-20 minutes of giving birth. Mine was firmly attached and going nowhere. The midwife gave me a shot of oxytocin right away and when that didn’t work, started an IV drip. No use, that thing was superglued inside of me and all the while I was slowly bleeding.

We still weren’t at panic point. We knew this needed to be addressed in the hospital but I was stable. The policy for these types of events in our hospital is that the midwife calls ahead and the hospital prepares an OR so that they are ready to go by the time we get there. They had over an hour to prepare as it took some time for the ambulance to come, get me checked out and ready to go.

Oh, by the way, getting wheeled out into your cul-de-sac naked and covered in blood, super awesome, hello neighbours! I had to hold my newborn in my arms, having contractions and the urge to push the entire drive. Each time I felt another contraction I would feel more blood gush out. It was intensely uncomfortable and I was feeling a little nervous.

And then it all went wrong... read how a hospital's prejudice against homebirth nearly cost me my life!

We got to the hospital, in an ambulance, lights and sirens going…. and it all went wrong.

Meanwhile, at the Hospital… the Midwife was going to get Taught a “Lesson” with Me as the Star Example!

The nurses made us go to admitting. ADMITTING. With me laying on the stretcher holding my baby seeping blood for nearly 2 hours.  This took over 10 minutes. I sat in a hallway waiting. Then, they sent us up to labor and delivery. I knew this wasn’t right, they were supposed to take me to the OR! The midwife was trying to figure out what was going on as I was starting to feel faint and she knew policy was out the window. I passed the baby off to my hubby (so much for nursing and baby bonding time) and they wheeled me into labor and delivery. Once there we looked around… where was the obstetrician? The anesthesiologist??? It had been over an hour, why weren’t we in the OR?

Once the nurses took my blood pressure and started to understand the situation, the room was a flurry. They paged the obstetrician and everything seemed to happen at once. I have since requested all my medical records and will quote my situation from the obstetricians notes:

The patient was in hypovolemic shock. Her blood pressure was 70/20, heart rate was 120, and she was pale and diaphoretic. The placenta was still in situ.

They called the anesthesiologist on call to start a second IV. I remember it so clearly. The obstetrician took one look at me, literally ONE LOOK and said “My name is _________ and we are going to get this placenta out”.

WAIT! This isn’t how it was supposed to be! I was told it would be a manual removal under general anaesthesia! Why aren’t we going to the OR????

No time, I was crashing. I didn’t even have time to voice these thoughts before a doctors fist was inside of me digging while the anesthesiologist pushed on the outside trying to stimulate contractions.

Oh the horror! I sit here shaking just thinking about it, even three years later.

Meanwhile, at the Hospital... the Midwife was going to get Taught a -Lesson- about homebirth with Me as the Star Example!

I was awake, I had no painkillers. I was surrounded by at least 7 different doctors and nurses, I had people trying (and failing because of the shock) to get IVs in, others poking me to cross match my blood. I could see my husband holding my daughter, sitting out of the way, watching me.

And then all I felt, all I knew, was pain. Blinding, screaming pain. It seemed to go on for hours. I was sweating, my body forcing me to push even through it all. He dug and pulled and they scraped and pushed and I screamed and screamed.

I still think back with absolute pity on any woman on that floor who may have thought I was in labor.

This wasn’t no labor, this was a living hell.

I remember a point where I slumped. That is the best way I can think to describe it. I stopped screaming. I stopped pushing. I gave into the pain and just lay there, exhausted and defeated. They thought I had passed out and it was still attached. At that point they stopped, looked at eachother, said I was out and that they had to get me to an OR stat. I heard it all, and I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt I would die. It had been two hours of bleeding, of waiting.

I know it was God. He was there. He told me I couldn’t stop. I had to keep on fighting.

And so I did! I started pushing and screaming again and miracle of miracles, it started detaching! It came out in fragments with a lot of scraping but it did come out. All in all it was about a 20 minute procedure. They whisked me off right away for an ultrasound to see if there was any left or if they would need to do surgery.

After the ultrasound, I waited to have someone bring me back up. And I cried. And cried and cried and cried. I knew I just about died. I knew that could have been it! I knew how close I had come and I knew that it was over.

People walked by, on the way to their ultrasounds, looking at me in bewilderment. I’m sure I looked a mess, bloody and bawling in my dark corner. I didn’t care who heard, I was so relieved and horrified and overcome, I just broke.

I needed multiple transfusions to get me to the point where I had enough energy to walk to the bathroom by myself or feel like I could breathe. And the recovery was terrible, long and emotional. I had a lowgrade fever for two weeks and felt so weak. My stomach was blue, it hurt to walk. I felt like I had been brutalized! But I was alive.

Hospital Birth vs. Homebirth… with me in the middle

It took us a long time to process this event. Months before we felt like we could talk about it or see past the fact that I nearly died. We realized that procedure and protocol weren’t met and wanted to know what had gone wrong.

We requested my medical records and saw that they didn’t quite match up. Much of it was missing or wrong. The obstetricians records indicated I refused to go to the hospital when the case was that by the time the midwife came I was pushing already!

We were told that this wasn’t the first time. That our specific hospital has a real issue with midwifes and specifically homebirth in general and there had been numerous cases of doctors whose attitude and prejudice against homebirth had caused other situations to occur.

I felt angry and betrayed by our medical system. I felt used. Afterwards the doctor yelled at my husband and the midwife that they nearly killed me for having a homebirth. We were treated by the staff as if we were backroad hicks who were too stupid to go to the hospital. No one wanted to hear that I was already pushing and it would have been too late by the time the kids were picked up. No one wanted to know that the homebirth was fine and if it weren’t for their lack of preparation it would not have been an emergency situation. I was chastised. I was made to feel like an idiot.

How Hospital Prejudice against Homebirth Nearly Cost me my life!

And only months later did I realize I had just played a part in a play.

And Nothing Changed, the War Wages On!

My husband and I tried to go after the hospital for not following procedure but we live in a small area and no one here specializes in malpractice or wanted to take it on. We considered going to the media, wanting to be heard, wanting to prevent this for someone else. But in the end we wanted to just move on.

I recently ran into our midwife and she was on her way to deal with another situation with one of her homebirth patients and my heart just broke. Nothing changed. If I had died, I would have just been a pawn in this game against natural or homebirth. My case did go under review with the Perinatal Review Board but it was just a bunch of doctors trying to go after the midwife for doing a homebirth rather than taking any responsibility for their actions.

Moving On

I had placenta accreta, where the placenta attaches to the uterine wall. It is a rare condition and not picked up on regular ultrasounds. It couldn’t have been prevented or even picked up on and I am quite honestly lucky to be alive. But I thank God for my life, not the local hospital. I honestly think they would have been happy to see me die to have a noose from which to hang the midwife from.

For those of you who I know are itching to get your hands on the comment thread to bash me for doing a homebirth… my next baby was obviously in the hospital. In fact I was so mistrustful of this hospital that I drove 4 hours for all my appointments and delivered my last baby in Vancouver. I know that in many cases a homebirth can be dangerous and we wouldn’t have done it again because of my history. However if we lived in town and didn’t have this condition hanging over our heads we would have done it again. The homebirth itself was one of the highlights of my life, and if the hospital had followed their guidelines I would have been happily under anesthesia and all would have been well.

There are horror stories out there on both sides of the coin and plenty of risks with all of the interventions that happen in a hospital as well.

I encourage you to be careful before you judge us “dumb hicks” who choose homebirth. Sometimes we just can’t make it to the hospital because the baby comes too fast. And sometimes we do a lot of research, all our prenatals, see that everything is fine and make an informed decision to have a baby at home. We are all trying to do what is best for our children.

Have you ever had a homebirth or delivered with a midwife?

Photos by eyeliam were found on flickr and combined for the purposes of this post. To find them check out eyeliam’s profile here.

Comments

  1. First of all, let me say I am so sorry you had to go through that.

    I have a love-hate relationship with hospitals because I know that in the grand scheme of things, We are that customer at the drive-through restaurant and they are running a timer on our births. They have a quota to be met and they should have embraced you with more love and care. Why were they mad? More than likely money. They wanted to bill you for a full (and very expensive) hospital labor. It took the hospital almost taking my over (they overdosed me on BP meds) to understand how greedy and horrible they are. All for the mighty dollar.

    • I totally agree! Without modern medicine I would have been dead three times over through my pregnancies. I am thankful for hospitals! I wish some of the attitude and judgement and biases didn’t (and wouldn’t) effect the way we are treated and I felt like their “trying to teach us a lesson” at the risk of my life was unprofessional and unfortunate. Thanks for reading!

  2. Firstly, how beautiful that you were able to have a homebirth and we able to stick out labour for so long without a midwife, I hope I can be like that on my next pregnancy. Secondly, I am so sorry that things didn’t go as smoothly as you hoped and that the hospital were so incompetent to deal with your situation. Seriously, what the hell was wrong with those people putting your life at such risk like that! I’ve never heard of that placenta condition before so thanks for making me aware.

    • It is a rare condition but becoming more prevalent because of the use of C-sections. Each time you have a C section you are at risk for this condition as it generally forms over scar tissue in the uterus. In my case, it didn’t form over scar tissue so even if they had been looking there they wouldn’t have found it. Thanks for reading!

  3. Oh wow…your vivid description of what happened to you is really scary and had me wincing a couple of times. I could visualize all of the things happening to you in the hospital, and I feel so bad that you had to go through them. I’m also really p’ed off that the hospital staff would even treat those who choose homebirth different. That is absolutely crazy.

  4. Oh wow how awful it must have been for you and your family, the pain you must have gone through all due to the negligence of the hospital it’s despicable. I hope you sued them or something because this will keep happening, glad you are alive to tell the tale.

    • Thanks Miranda, it was awful and painful and scary. We didn’t sue, I am just telling my story. My case went under a number of reviews by the hospital and it was a catalyst for a small amount of change. So at least something good came of it, well that and my beautiful baby that is! 🙂

  5. What a scary experience. So happy to hear a positive outcome. Hospital staff should be respectful of parents always. Who doesn’t want what’s best for their child? I think people lose perspective on that far too often.

    • I agree, in all things really, we judge quickly and that comes across in how we deal with people. I suppose it is human nature but I wish it hadn’t happened in this professional capacity.

  6. What a scary experience! I am so glad to hear that it ended well (finally). Regardless of your personal choice it is the decision that you have the right to make. I can’t believe a hospital would not immediately help and ask questions later. We should not throw stones at anyone for any reason. Thanks for sharing your story.

  7. Recap: You have a homebirth. The placenta is an accreta and does not detach. You nearly bleed to death at home. You get finally to the hospital and they save your life. And you are ungrateful to the hospital. Really? How dare you! They saved your life. Had you stayed at home you would have died.

    • Yes the hospital saved my life, however waiting for over twenty minutes to be treated, doing it intentionally and deliberately, making me sit in a hallway to “teach us a lesson” is the part that I am upset about. Afterwards I was treated very badly, nurses and staff were outright rude and condescending. I guess the point of the article is that DESPITE their personal opinions, they take an oath to treat patients. To be professional and leave their biases at the door. Instead their biases nearly killed me. I was actually stable until I reached the hospital. If they had been ready as was their policy it would not have been an emergency situation. I would have had the procedure safely under general anesthesia. Instead it happened while I was awake with no pain medication because I was left to sit in a hallway, the doctor was no where to be seen. No one was prepared or wanted to be. It was a deliberate attempt and while grateful to be alive, I thank God for pulling me through as I really don’t think I would have survived that if He hadn’t intervened. Thanks for reading

  8. So thankful we live in a city that has hospitals that are open to personal choice. We have midwives that deliver at the hospital. There are a team of 8 and the rotate being at the hospital and being in the office for visits. They let you follow your body. The hospital also has water birth suites. I think homebirth is a great option. If we ever move away from here I will probably do a homebirth. Midwives are great!

  9. I’m so sorry for your experience! There is a bias in healthcare against natural treatments and alternative therapies, including homebirths. I have to say, as a labor and delivery nurse, that (while it has many flaws) I work in a hospital that proudly puts patient care above all opinions and biases. We work tirelessly together in emergencies to help save babies and moms in all situations, including ones that EVERYONE would judge, like delivering moms that are high on drugs with no prenatal care, regardless of our personal feelings. I’m sorry you were treated that way. Most hospital personal do become indoctrinated about what is safe and they probably mostly believe that home births are dangerous and stupid, but I do not feel that way. I have been to one that was a little scary, yet amazing. Regardless, personal judgements should have never affected the care or treatment you received and I hope that soon it will not be tolerated anymore than racism or other prejudices. Love and best wishes to you

  10. I went though something similar, retained placenta, hospital transfer. They didn’t know where to take me, wandered around the halls, were not ready. I know the pain of a manual placenta removal. I didn’t lose as much blood as you though. The really getting me for having a home birth was the crap they pulled with my daughter. Too much to type now. They held her hostage for 5 days. The ped sabotaged our breastfeeding, called cps on me for wanting to breastfeed her and more.

  11. This brings back so many memories of what I went through, I had an OBGYN that was not approving of natural birth so my husband and I chose an unassisted home birth. Baby came out fine but placenta would not detach and I was in denial of any issues so we stayed in the bath tub for 1hr before cutting cord and then called EMS when I started to lose color. They tried massaging and trying to get baby to latch but nothing worked. I needed up being transported but the hospital transported me immediately to OR and took placenta out and I had to have 2 transfusion. My biggest problem was the care of the baby, she was labeled a “dirty baby” and put under constant observation by a nurse. I do not know if I had the same issue with my placenta as you did, I will need to find out from hospital exact issue with placenta. Did you ever have issues with placenta in your other pregnancies? We are planning a midwife home birth with my this pregnancy but I am very nervous of having this issue again especially since it cannot be detected 🙁 so happy you had your dream birth and that everyone is happy and healthy in the end 🙂

  12. How brave of you to share this! I would have loved to have a home birth. It made (and still makes) sense to me to be in comfortable surroundings. Shame on the hospital staff for being so dismissive!

  13. I’m so sorry you had to endure that. I’m shuddering and so angry for you about what happened. I have been so incredibly blessed by our awesome birthing policies and laws in BC myself in regards to midwifery care that I am shocked that something like this would happen here. We have some of the best laws around birth in North America! It’s sad but good information to know that even here there are still prejudices. I’m thankful in the end you and your babies are healthy and happy and you even had more! I’m also thankful that my own midwives have super good relationships at the hospitals they have access to and are well received by the maternity doctors they have to consult with. I have been tossing around the idea of a home birth for our next baby, this does add a little bit of extra worry into the mix for me when before the only thing holding me back was the mess . But your story shows it could have been anyone really, I know a number of women who gave birth at home because they didn’t have time to get to the hospital, who were cared for by doctors and that bad patient treatment could have happened to them as well so I think it’s just one more thing to cover in prayer. Thank you for sharing, regardless of where a birth happens, choosing a midwife was one of the best decisions I have ever made!

  14. I know so well the burning desire for an oportunity to follow your body’s lead. To respect and be respected. For the dignity of this sacred momento.
    I live in a place where it is rarely so.
    And I know how it feels when nothing goes as one hoped.
    My fourth was to be my dreamed for planned homebirth. (My third was accidently an unplanned homebirth. Just hubby and I. But thats another story)
    A miss diagnosis forced us to reject our dream, unnecesarily, it turns out. Its been hard to let go of that. And then surprising timing turned it into a car birth! When we arrived at the hospital I was admitted to labor and delivery and she was sent to pediatric ER?!?! We were not reunited unecesarily for another 17 hours. I was given no voice. I was given unecessary, unwanted meds. I was treated quite harshly when cleaned and sewn. I was hospitalized an extra day against my will without need. Nothing so dramatic as your experience. But simply humiliated in many little ways and, I felt, also being “taught a lesson” for not just getting to the hospital on time!

  15. My middle child was a vaginal birth after cesarian ‘home’ birth. My midwives were fantastic, my doula amazing. We lived 7hrs from the nearest hospital or midwife so a couple of weeks prior to due date we moved into a hotel near them. Four hours of labour and my baby was out, healthy and wonderful. No complications, no ripping, no fuss. Best expirience ever other than the YOU DID WHAT!?! Comments after lol. My third child I had hoped to have the same way but she ruptured my membranes at 32 weeks so that got thrown out the window. Hugs to you and your family! I’m glad you got to expirience the beauty of homebirth before the chaos of the rest.

    • That is an awesome story! It’s good to be in a hotel so that if anything happens you are close to help, perhaps that would have been a better option for me, but 45 minutes didn’t seem bad considering it takes them that long to prep and get an OR ready. We talked with them beforehand and had a plan that she would call from the house after calling emergency services and they would prep the OR. It was confirmed on the phone during the process, but the hospital did not have the OR ready, despite it being dead in the hospital. Disappointing. In the end, they did have a large meeting to discuss hospital protocol which was a good thing, and I am alive to tell the story, so that is all that really matters in the end. Hopefully it doesn’t happen to anyone else down the road.

  16. Ppl unless you have been to med school stop pretending it’s a super good idea to deliver your baby at home. Just stop. Have the baby in the damn hospital stop with the self serving birth warrior shit.

  17. It sounds like it’s your fault and the midwife’s fault more than the hospital’s fault. You at they made you wait 20 minutes but describe it as having been two hours after delivery. So after waiting an hour and 40 min to get help, you blame the hospital for your condition? They can’t take a person they know nothing about (i’m sure your midwife had no admitting privileges, sent no medical history beforehand, and failed to inform them that you had placenta accreta, something that absolutely CAN be detected beforehand.) and just go put you under general anesthesia, which in and of itself is a danger to pregnant women, especially one whose been bleeding out for and hour and 40 min. So because they have to get information and consents to treat, you blame them for you mishap?! Sounds terribly ignorant and ungrateful. The reason they manually tried to remove the placenta is because you were in CRITICAL condition, hemorrhaging and the fastest way to make it stop is to manually remove the placenta and replace the blood you lost. Since they had no idea you tried such a dangerous thing as homebirth with a life threatening condition like that, you put yourself at risk and I’m sure they were a little more than peeved at having to patch up such a terrible situation.

    • You make a lot of statements you are SURE of that are dead wrong, perhaps because you weren’t there, so you aren’t sure and perhaps have the same prejudices clouding your ability to read the article and understand the whole story. My midwife called as I was in labor, so the hospital knew and had my records. By the time she had arrived I was in transition and it was too late to go to the hospital either way, things were progressing normally. As soon as the baby was delivered and she saw the placenta wasn’t easily coming out, she called the hospital and the ambulance, they said they would have an OR waiting and they did not. The rest of the waiting was the time to get me set up with IVs, waiting for ambulance, and ambulance transport. And yes of course she had hospital privileges or she would not have been able to do all of that nor deliver babies in the hospital. Your inability to read the article is clear in your gross miscalculations and the conclusions you leapt to with great enthusiasm and bias. Thank you for proving my point and adding to it: the prejudice and biases of home birth are prevalent not only in the medical community, but outside of it as well. More and more women are choosing home birth, why is that do you think? As with any controversial subject, very few people actually try to understand it, they hear one side and jump on the bandwagon without having all the facts. Case closed.

      • The fact is you gripe about twenty minutes gone by getting you admitted, and there was ajar an hour and 40 minutes gone by in which you describe yourself as in stable condition. Probably how your midwife would’ve described you when calling them with a heads up? See there are holes in the story if your midwife had admitting privileges there, why did she drive an hour to your home whit you were laboring, why not meet you at the hospital? Sounds like a planned homebirth. Anyone can call ahead with an emergency a and get treatment at a hospital without admitting privileges. Just because she did that doesn’t mean she delivers babies at that hospital. The fact that she did a home delivery at all tells me she doesn’t deliver babies in hospital. They don’t allow practitioners to do that, too big of a liability. So essentially a hospital hears that a placenta won’t come after homebirth, but mom is stable. First protocol is to do pelvic exam and to determine what the issue is, how vitals look, etc… But I’m sure things got drastically hurried (hence lack of pain management) once they realized your actual condition. I’ve had 2 birthing center births, and labor and delivery experience, I know how things work. Sounds like they were unfortunately blamed for a situation completely out of their control.

  18. I have to agree with the last comment. How could you ever expect a hospital to take you straight to surgery on the say of a MW…and one that seems to have no relationship with the hospital. You were always going to need to be admitted and examined so the DOCTORS could diagnose the issue. It is awful that during that process you deteriorated so quickly. It wasnt their attitude to home birth. When I went in with suspected appendicitis, I had to be admitted and examined before surgery – they weren’t going to take the GP at his say so, why would a MW be and different (or perhaps they had a bias against ‘home infection’). You accused the hospital of not following protocol but that IS the protocol. If your MW led you to believe otherwise than you should be pursuing her for malpractice…except you usually cant (alarm bells much?!?!?!) You did not nearly die because of their bias against home birth. You nearly died because the complications and circumstances of your home birth prevented timely examination and diagnosis by the ONLY medical professionals who could treat you.

  19. I’m with Katie and Heather on this. Let the medical PROFESSIONALS do thier job. You’re not a doctor. If I was a nurse or Dr I wouldn’t wanna touch a homebirth transfer with a ten foot pole.

  20. I am sorry for your experience. But how are they supposed to do general anesthesia without an iv line? That could not be done because you were in shock and first thing was saving your life and you experiencing no pain was less important at that time. And they could not have known what kind of a patient they would be getting. It might have been that your midwife only reported you having a stuck placenta and not having lost so much blood.

    • My midwife did get an IV in at my house with Oxy before I ever got to the hospital. The issue was that they didn’t even assess me for 20 minutes upon arrival. I sat in a hallway. That was when it all went wrong. If I had been seen by a nurse or someone like you would at triage upon arrival, as was their policy, all would have been fine. But they did not follow protocol. They were not excessively busy, it was not a crisis or something preventing me being seen, it was a message and one that nearly killed me.

  21. I guess a lot of this is cultural, in the UK homebirths are suggested from 2-4th baby, 40% end up transferred to hospital – mainly for failure to progress or extra pain meds. But of course, it’s rare to live more than half an hour from a hospital here. Having people think it’s idiotic to try a home birth because your not a medical professional, well, here in the UK they’d be the ones who sound like uneducated hicks – for not understanding the natural process of birth.

  22. If you’re not a Dr you shouldn’t be delivering babies. I wouldn’t let anyone without a medical license touch me. Or my baby. All you nutty hippie moms need to stop putting your babies in danger to feed your egos. So pathetic

  23. I have had all four of my kids at our local hospital with a midwife every time. Every experience has been wonderful. They recently, within the last few years, started a policy of “if she’s sleeping, vitals can wait because sleep is crucial for recovery,” which is so spot on! It’s a Seventh-Day Adventist Hospital, so they care about health, provide amazing vegan (or vegetarian, or non-vegetarian) meals. My last birth I arrived at the hospital, told them I was ready to push, and they opened a door to a labor-birth-recovery room and they did the admitting after my baby was born. They are always improving, and caring about the whole well-being of the mother and child.
    If there’s an Adventist hospital in your area, I recommend it!

    • Oh, and yes, I’ve had complications such as anemia and placenta previa (the placenta moved away from uterus but there was much bleeding) and the CERTIFIED NURSE MIDWIVES, who ARE medical PROFESSIONALS, handled it beautifully. They knew exactly what to do. Because they are professionals.

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