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#52 The Marriage Episode

Talking about my marriage isn’t easy for me. It is Monday afternoon, hours after my podcast usually goes live and yet I am hesitating pushing the publish button.

Some of the things we are sharing in today’s podcast episode are things we haven’t really shared with even our own families and friends before. As I listened to the episode over again, I was plagued with insecurity. What if someone takes it the wrong way? How are we coming across? Is this even relevant?

And yet, I know that marriage is pretty much the bedrock of this whole homeschool thing. When we don’t talk about the nitty gritty, the hard stuff, the painful stuff, the growing stuff… it makes it look like this is easy. And as you and I both know, it is anything BUT easy.

Today’s podcast episode is my husband Jonathan and I sharing the story of our marriage, particularly our first few years, and how much things have changed and how that came about.

For anyone who isn’t familiar, a little bit of background info:

Jonathan is my husband of about 13 years
We met when I was 17 and he was 25
We are 7 1/2 years apart (if you were using your fingers to count, you aren’t alone)
We are both passionate, intense, and incredibly dramatic
He is an RCMP officer (When Calls the Heart, Due South, it’s Canadian federal policing)
Depot is where RCMP members go for training for 6 months. It is 2 provinces over
Pat leave is paternity leave, he took time off for our last two kids to help me when they were born.

Your turn!

Join the conversation! What were your first years of marriage like? How does your marriage play into homeschooling? Did you have a honeymoon phase?

And in other news, what do you want to see next week on the podcast?

Let’s talk about it in the comments!


  1. I love this podcast and hearing a story of a strong healthy marriage. My husband and I are similar in our thoughts and in our story. My husband is also a police officer but one of our greatest sense of pride is our marriage. We truly love each other more now than the day we met and we thank God daily for our journey to get where we are.

  2. Thank you for sharing. My husband and I often give the advice to newly married couples that you have to learn how to fight and disagree. We used to be like y’all were as well. So thankful for the Lord’s mercies!

  3. Rebecca,
    I loved hearing this talk and through the paradigm of the 4 animals – Lion, Otter, Golden Retriever and Beaver. Two lions together – the conflict was predictable! However, because lions are aggressive problem solvers, this got you through. Would love to do a guest podcast with you on this topic.

  4. I loved this episode. I was laughing with y’all and Omgosh how much I could relate to your story of marriage not being a honeymoon phase. First several years were brutal but we’ve been through so much together and wouldn’t have it any other way. We’re stronger today and celebrating our 11th anniversary this summer. Thanks for being honest and sharing.

  5. I really enjoyed this podcast! I’ve been married 13 years this week! I don’t think we fought a ton in the beginning but there was definitely a long painful lesson in how to love someone and live with them. We definitely had to let go of expectations. And I have to agree with you that I’m very much a different person now than I was when I was a newlywed. I praise God for that. My marriage and each of our children has ground me down into someone who can handle her temper, speak kindly even when I don’t want to, serve others when I just want to be lazy, and a whole slew of other life lessons. Thanks again for sharing!

  6. My husband and I are currently in that refiners fire, and just getting a glimse of the other side–what I KNOW God has in store, and yet I still need help believing–is so encouraging. Thank you for being transparent and vulnerable and REAL.

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